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Transitioning to Transformation

December 31st, 2019 at 01:02 am

2019 wasn't a real stand out in the books. It wasn't the worst, it was just here. We stagnated. We dealt with some health issues (nothing major thankfully, but a gall bladder removal and then some health issues for the SO's parents).

We had high hopes for fixing up and selling the primary residence, but life got it the way and we didn't move as fast and we've made some poor financial decisions along the way - like thinking we'd move to the rental property that remains unrented (loss of $1,600 per month) and more costly home repairs ($3,500 for mason work on our chimney), etc.

My subbing isn't covering the loss of rental property income and we also understimated the cost of repairs to the home to be sold.

But I'm no longer looking back and lamenting, since I'm not heading that way.

January 1st I begin a comprehensive list room-by-room what else needs to be done here at the primary residence. And I'll tackle it efficiently.

I'll be travelling to California with my older daughter and I have estimated round trip air to be $145 at the most (based on tentative time for travel) and I will split the car rental with her. I have $300 cash saved for that and am expecting at least another $300 from the side gig with biological father and his rental property issues.

Christmas was pleasant - however, we had a new Christmas tree with new ornaments and my sentimental children missed the nostalgia of our normal tree with all the memories on it. We also attended Christmas service at the Evangelical church that younger daughter and I attend and she, of all people, missed the Traditional Mass and ended up going Christmas morning to the Catholic Mass with her grandparents. My mother was lamenting past times as well and I'm sadly unsympathetic to these conversations, and I usually quip in "Well, tell me something that you liked about this Christmas". I really have to work on being immune to the people who are generally Debbie Downers (sadly there are a few in my circle).

I miss my dear friends - one of the dearest ones died in October and the other one moved to OKC. My other friend is a mess and requires a lot of time and hand-holding as she has chosen to take an opioid addict into her home and he also is on a merry-go-round of in and outs of stays in the mental hospital (third stay in 30 days).

I'd like to transform past this. I'd like to be settled mortgage free in a townhome in the subdivision where we have selected.

I have signed up for a writer's workshop (I did a blind submission and got positive feedback on what I entered). Cost of this is $250. I have also signed up for a self help/bible group/book study run by liberal Catholic friend. I have the goal of losing 10 pounds in January. I would also like to drink more water, do cardio 4x a week, and spend time daily on a hobby (reading/writing/stitching).

I am really ready for 2020. I am enjoying everyone's inventory of goals success for 2019. Hoping to join you all in reporting good things accomplished in 2020 one year from now.

Happy New Year's All!

5 Responses to “Transitioning to Transformation”

  1. Dido Says:

    I'm sorry for the losses you experienced during the year, and congrats on the positive feedback from the writer's workshop--and best of luck on your goals!

  2. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I think it's human nature to see the past as better than it was when things change. When you come to the point where you can say, yes, things are different, and may take some adjusting, but life is still good - then I think you, and the people around you, will be happier. (i.e. less debbie downers)

  3. rob62521 Says:

    I'm sorry for the losses, but it sounds like you have some good plans. One of the things I did when we bought our house in 1998 was start a notebook where I date and put what we did room by room so I can tell what has been done and when. It also reminds me of things I may need to do or check to make sure it is what is working or whatever. Since you are making a list room by room, perhaps starting the notebook will also help you check off what you've done.

    I think people often romantize the past sometimes like when they say "the good old days." Sometimes they really aren't good.

  4. Laura Says:

    @Rob62521, That is an awesome idea with the notebook! I am going to do that! Thank you!

  5. rob62521 Says:

    Glad you like the idea! You are very welcome!

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